So I recently had a strike of baby fever which is a strong desire to have a baby. I’ve been going in and out of baby fever for the last year. I think that as I mature as a woman my need for a stable relationship and a family grows. Some people would argue that i’m only 23 but I think baby fever can come at any age. Even with that said I don’t promote baby fever in young teenagers or people that want a baby for the wrong reasons. Personally I want to have a child after I finish school but sometimes I think I should have a child after i’m into a good job for a couple years. I also would like to be in a healthy relationship but i’ve also asked myself if that relationship doesn’t come at what age will I have a child by myself. It is all so confusing!
Recently I met a 23 year old young woman that is pregnant and a single parent. She had baby fever that made her yearn for a child for years. After 3 or 4 years she decided to go through the process of getting pregnant without a partner and soon she will be having her baby boy. I personally believe she is very courageous and bold to make such a big decision based on her needs and wants instead of waiting for a partner to have a child with. I think many women get caught up in the idea that we must have a partner in order to fufil the desire to have a child which is incorrect. I believe a woman can have a child by herself as long as she gives the child love and security. I also realize how some people make think she is selfish for bringing a child in the world without a second parent or too young to make such a huge lifechanging decision. Some people may also worry about if my friend can insure that their will be financial stability since the 20s are usually when young adults are trying to establish themselves in the world.
On the flip side I have also seen situations where people wait until they are in their 30’s and 40’s and married with a career to have children. One major problem with waiting that long is fertility since a woman’s peak fertility time is at 24 years old. Some women in that age group have to use different medical procedures to become pregnant. If those procedures dont work then some women resort to a surrogate mother or adoption. On a positive note older women usually have a stable financial situation and can afford all the things that their child may need. They also are more mature and have stable homes for their children versus younger mothers that are working on creating stability for their family.
So i’d like to know in your opinion when is the right time to have a child? Should it be based on age? The desire to have a child? Financial stability? What’s your opinion on having a child without a partner? Whats your opinion on women waiting until their 30s and 40s to have children? When did you have your children or if you dont have any children when do you plan on having them? Speak your truth!