Earlier today I was on Twitter viewing my timeline and one of my followers tweeted about something Wendy Williams said on her show today. Basically, she was in the audience talking to one of her guest that had natural hair and she told her guest that her natural hair was cute but it’s not for everyone. I love Wendy Williams but seriously Wendy? How isn’t natural hair for everyone? Sadly enough I have heard many women of color say this statement and I do not agree at all. To me, saying natural hair isn’t for everyone is like saying it’s not okay to be the person you were born to be, afro puff and all!
Now i’m not one of those natural hair advocates that pushes for every single woman to be natural because I definitely believe that we are individuals with individual ideas of beauty. I must admit though, that I do favor natural hair and I have had chemically relaxed hair in the past. But back to the topic, I have locs and I have had many people approach me giving my locs positive comments but saying they could never do without chemicals. That statement always pulls my brain into many directions. Does the person think natural hair is unattractive? Are they not patient enough to deal with the growing out process? Does the person lack the confidence it takes to be their natural selves at all times? Do they use chemicals to cover up their insecurities in their hair and themselves? So on and so forth.
I have asked these questions to people with chemically relaxed hair and the answers I get are all different. Overall though, I realize that a big reason why women of color don’t feel like they can carry a natural look is because many have lost touch with their natural selves. I believe that it mostly due to the way society has portrayed black women in the media. I usually see women of color portrayed as a coke bottle figure, long black hair and spotless makeup. That constant perception of a woman of color has rubbed off on the reality of many women and this is the perception that they have melted into their own perception of themselves.
I have hope that this will change because their is a movement in the black community that is bringing woman of color more into the idea of being natural and loving themselves in their natural state. Again, i’m not against chemicals and all but chemicals are harsh on the body even if we don’t see it directly with our eyes. Me being someone who has used chemicals in the past can tell you from experience that being natural is definitely a process but I have never felt so confident and comfortable in my skin than I do now!
So tell me your opinion. Are you natural or chemically relaxed? Is natural hair not for everyone? What’s your opinion of both sides? Share your stories!